Attract Lasting Love

Valentine's Day brings out the romantic in most of us. At the very least, it's a day that we'd LIKE to have the romantic brought out in us. In a relationship or not, when you think about Valentine's Day don't you remember those silly little cupid cards we sent around to our class mates in grade school or the cards we made in class for our Moms?

Other references and reminders we have about Valentine's Day and what it means to be in a relationship or not, can leave us feeling good or bad, depending on what our relationship status is. Unfortunately, most of how we feel, no matter what our relationship status is, is brought to bear upon us by the conditioned thinking that has been 'out there' in the mass consciousness.

Don't listen to what they're saying. Don't listen if it doesn't uplift and empower you. You're excellent just the way you are.

If you want a relationship and don't have one, wonderful! You can clarify what you want. Now you're in a great place to start to attract a relationship from a new starting point.

If you're in a relationship and are not too happy with the way things are going, fine. Now you can better gain clarity on what you DO want in a loving relationship, based on the contrast you're presently living.

Valentine's Day, whether you're coupled or not, can be a day where you celebrate the romance that's coming to you! However, you must be proactive about this. You're the one who gets to say and has the creative control of what you want in your relationship.

Here's where many of us fall down on the job. We're waiting for the circumstances to change out there. We're waiting for him to take charge. We're hoping that if we drop enough hints, he'll step up and swing into action. WRONG. Don't do that. That's allowing yourself to be at the effect, rather than the cause of your life. You get say. All you need to do is make a gentle request, to your existing beloved or to the Universe. Next, you'll need to step out of the way. You must let go of the how, the what and then when of your request. Attachment to the outcome is basically like resisting what you want. You can't say "Come in" with your hand pushing the door closed and expect it to enter. Perhaps that's easier said than done. But that's why life coaching exists for those of us who need to gain clarity of why we're not getting what we want and then help us to align with what we do so it can manifest.

It comes down to three steps. Ask, Align, and Allow. Simple, right? Not always easy. Ask yourself "What could be available to me in a loving, aligned, co-creative partnership"? "What would be possible for me in my life if I had a mutual, loving relationship"? Dream Big! Now start to play in the energy of what your life would look like and feel like if you were enjoying that now. Use your imagination - remember what you did so naturally as a kid?

I'm always deeply moved when I think of all of the amazing miracles I've attracted by way of manifesting my beloved husband. A little over 4 years ago, I was one of those people who had more unhappy endings to relationships than I'd care to admit. Then, I took this Attraction stuff seriously. I did the play/work. I removed my barriers to love, got aligned and rapidly attracted the love of my dreams.

This Valentine's Day, this Year, I hope you are as blessed as I am in relationship. I know you deserved it. By the way, relationship is an ongoing co-creation. And so is life. I'm wishing you a happy life, happy love and happy creating.