Thought - Is It Really Powerful?

You may have heard about the power of thought. You may have heard that we create our own reality based on our own thought. However, you may not believe it. And I don’t blame you, and I know why you don’t believe it.
I am sure you agree that we are only interested in results and how we can get our own results in our own lives. For me, that is what really matters. The problem is that most of us use our current results to generate our thoughts. So you may be broke, in debt, have a job that you don’t like, or don’t have a job. These are the results that generate bad thoughts and you feel bad. Feeling bad, you are conditioned to do the same things over and over again, and eventually you get the same results (the bad ones). Can you see the problem? We think based on current results, or appearances.
Now, the good news is there is a way out. I am sure most of you agree that we, as human beings, are the only creatures on earth as far as we know, that can THINK, can create own THOUGHTS. Can you image a horse can do that? Can a horse think “Oh, I am so happy”. I very much doubt it. But we can create this thought. Even in the worst scenario, we can stop and generate a thought “Hey I am happy!” and start looking for the positive things out of this seem-to-be-negative situation. Isn’t it nice? This thought starts a chain reaction, leading to happy feelings, then positive actions and eventually positive results! Positive results are the TRUTH.
So to sum it up, think TRUTH (positive results, what we want) rather than think APPEARANCES (current results, what we don’t want). It is hard and laborious and sometimes painful, but we can do it! We have the power to create own thought.
This article is inspired by the ideas presented in http://livingthesecret.thesgrprogram.com
Vinh Nguyen is a free spirit writer. He is passionate about what motivates people. He believes that everyone has only one goal in life – TO BE HAPPY and everyone deserves to be happy.

How To Use Mind Maps As A Goal Setting Template

Many people look to goal setting templates as a structure around which to base their planning. The good thing about these templates is that they enable you to organize your sometimes disjointed ideas. However this can come at the cost of sacrificing a degree of imaginative and creative thinking. This article examines how mind maps can add a stimulating component to your goal setting.
The historical origins of mind mapping are debatable (see the wikipedia.org entry for background information) but it has become popular in the English-speaking world these past 30 years, partly as a result of the work of British psychologist Tony Buzan.
Mind mapping starts with a central topic word in the center of the page. As additional ideas are generated they are added to the map in the form of keywords that branch off into related areas, mainly through associative thinking.
For example, if I write the keyword "careers" in the middle of the page and allow my imagination free rein in coming up with connecting words and concepts, it's very easy to generate a creative flow that links careers to corporate to overseas to expatriate to Asia to Singapore. The important thing is to let the ideas start flowing in accordance with the the mapping guidelines of using single, connecting keywords in a nested branch structure.
As a flexible goal setting template, the use of mind maps has exciting potential to tap into ideas you may not have thought about when trying to actively create smart goals in a traditional linear note format. Structure still exists with the mind map itself because the use of single keywords connected via branching lines directs the mind to see possible linkage relationships, particularly as additional words are added to the paper or screen.
Recently there has been an increase in the number of goal setting software packages on the market as people grapple with finding online tools to help keep track of the many important and related aspects of their careers and lives.
Unfortunately, most of these products inadvertently guide their users into inputting visions, mission statements, goals and objectives as chunks of linearly constructed data. There's little scope for allowing the subconscious mind to contribute to the triggering of related ideas.
This is where mind mapping excels. Computer literate people have a number of mind mapping software tools to choose from, both commercial and open source. Should you go with a software solution, I recommend that you confirm the program's capability to export into standard linear format e.g. Microsoft Word - and also confirm its ability to import a word processing document into the mind map format. The potential for combining the best of logical and analytical thinking with that of a more intuitively conceptual form of idea generation is a very powerful personal development tool. Make use of it!
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Identifying Multiple Sclerosis Early Symptoms

Multiple Sclerosis early symptoms can be present without you even being aware of them because they can be so subtle. Like almost any disease, it is important to be able to recognize these early symptoms because most diseases that can be caught and diagnosed early have a much better chance of being resolved.
Multiple sclerosis which is also known simply as MS is a neurological disorder, and a debilitating disease that often comes with no warning whatsoever, and nobody is immune from it. Sometimes the early warning signs of MS are very subtle so that you do not even realize it, although other times the signs are so quick and dramatic that leaves little doubt in your mind as to what the source of the problem is. The big problem is that if you are not aware of the typical early symptoms of multiple sclerosis, you may dismiss it without getting a diagnosis, and by the time you do see your doctor about it, the disease has progressed to a more advanced form where controlling it or resolving it may no longer be an option for you.
Multiple sclerosis does not appear to be related to age of the afflicted patient, although it appears most prevalent in people between the ages of 20 and 40. That does not mean it does not affect people of other ages, but that age range is most prominent amongst reported cases of it. MS also does not discriminate between the sex of the individual, although females are almost three times more likely to contract it than males.
Recognizing and identifying multiple sclerosis includes having the ability to known some of the early warning signs of the affliction. The following list is not exhaustive but includes some common things to watch for. Know that these things could be nothing at all or could be a sign of sosmething else, but someone suffering from the onset of multiple sclerosis may be showing some of the following symptoms:
Tingling – This is common in the areas of the hands, fingers, feet, and toes.
Numbness – This could occur in any area of the body.
Double or Blurred Vision
Weakness in extremities or limbs
Balance Troubles – Having difficulties standing, walking, and keeping on balance.
Though not as common as the signs and symptoms listed above, some other multiple sclerosis early symptoms may also include:
Cognitive Troubles
Coordination Troubles
Sudden paralysis in extremeties
Slurred speech
Again, a person showing one or two of these signs does not automatically mean that they have MS, but these are common signs to watch for, and especially if someone consistently experiences one or more of these signs, it may not hurt to get a diagnosis. As the disease progresses, other symptoms could also come into play, such as:
Heat Sensitivity – In ability to withstand heat inside or outside, rather this be from weather or other things like hot water.
Fatigue – This could come in the form of mental or physical fatigue, as well as drowsiness or sleepiness, which is typical during the middle part of the afternoon, and may or may not be in conjunction with weakness of the muscles.
Decreased muscular control, such as muscle spasms, strange sensations, difficulty in speech or swallowing, difficulty in walking, tremors.
Be sure that you know what the multiple sclerosis early symptoms include and watch for them. It may not mean MS is present, but keep in mind that an early diagnosis is your best defense against a disease as debilitating as MS.
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Sexual Child Abuse - Something Can Be Done

We scream, we rant, we condemn, we demand and enact legislation to punish perpetrators [sex offenders] for sexual abuse of children to little avail. The news media in such programs as 20/20, Dateline, Montel Williams, Oprah Winfrey, Sports Illustrated and many other television shows and magazines have joined in the campaign to illuminate the problem after the damage is done.
Montel Williams on his show on November 11, 1999 exclaimed in exasperation "Why can't we do something about this?" as he uncovered the details of a pregnant ten-year-old girl, who had been raped several times by her mother's live-in boyfriend's eighteen-year-old son. Although, this story may seem unusual and/or fodder for a dramatic Montel Williams show, it is sadly all too common.
WASHINGTON (CNN) September 11, 2001--A study released Monday revealed that between 300,000 and 400,000 U.S. children--many from middle class homes--are victims of some type of sexual exploitation every year.
The three-year study, funded in part by the U.S. Department of Justice, analyzed the problem of sexual exploitation--particularly commercial sexual exploitation--of children in the United States, Canada and Mexico.
"Child sexual exploitation is the most hidden form of child abuse in the U.S. and North America today," said Richard J. Estes, co-author of the study. "It is the nation's least recognized epidemic."
Among the findings of a study titled "The Commercial Sexual Exploitation of Children in the U.S., Canada and Mexico":
• 325,000 children are sexually exploited in the United States annually. Of that figure, 121,911 ran away from home and 51,602 were thrown out of their homes by a parent or guardian.
• 25 percent of exploiters of children are other children.
• Children who engage in prostitution can earn between $200 and $1,500 per day.
• 75 percent of children who are victims of commercial sexual exploitation are from middle class backgrounds.
• 40 percent of the girls who engaged in prostitution were sexually abused at home, as were 30 percent of the boys.
Source: The Associated Press
Jetseta Gage’s kidnapping, rape and murder by a registered sex offender in March 2005 produced widespread anger throughout Iowa. In its response to Jetseta’s death, the legislature enacted sweeping changes affecting sex offenders, including: increasing prison terms for those convicted of sex crimes against children, monitoring electronically people convicted sex crimes against children, and requiring lifetime parole supervision for some offenders and life imprisonment for those convicted a second time of major sex offences.
In Iowa, there were 1,110 confirmed cases of sexual abuse in 2004 (Prevent Child Abuse Iowa, 2005). Nationally, the United States Department of Human Services estimated that more than 78,000 children were sexually abused in 2003 (U.S. Department and Human Services, 2005). Prevent Child Abuse Iowa.
Claire Reeves stated, "Prevention has eluded all of society, even passionate and committed prevention advocates, such as myself, because we concentrated our efforts entirely on repairing the damage. As the president and founder of MOTHERS AGAINST SEXUAL ABUSE, MASA, I see the carnage of lives on a daily basis. However, I have been too busy dealing with the ill effects of abuse to effectively consider prevention. Dorothy M. Neddermeyer has taken a bold stance on presenting strategies to prevent abuse in the family. Without vilifying the perpetrator, she has revealed the most frequent abuser within the family and the cruel realities of childhood sexual and physical abuse. She offers practical, clear, concise solutions for prevention."
Something can be done. Prevention strategies provide the solution Montel Williams is seeking. In a consistently humanistic and compassionate manner these strategies teach parents what abuse is, what to do about it, and how children can protect themselves. This practical hands-on approach, based on clinical and parenting experience, provides parents with:
• Five key techniques to abuse-proof your child
• Step-by-step instructions on what to do if you suspect or your child states or alludes to sexual abuse (11 steps),
• Compelling reasons to avoid spanking your child,
• How to choose a child care worker to come into your home,
• How to choose a day care facility,
• How to 'abuse proof' your child from perpetrators, who are coaches, teachers, clergy, child care workers or anyone who has contact with a child, including a parent or other family members,
• Survival skills for independence.
While not every ten-year-old girl, who is raped gets pregnant, studies reveal as high as 62% of girls and 31% of boys are sexually abused by age eighteen. Furthermore, studies reveal family members abuse eighty percent of children. The father is the most frequent abuser, followed by, in descending order, an uncle, grandfather, mother, sibling, cousin, or aunt. The frequency of abuse by coaches and others who have contact with children comprise approximately 19%. Abuse by strangers, while reprehensible, because it usually involves abduction, is the lowest of all. Government studies reveal only 4% of all abductions are by strangers. Of that 4%, only 1% are sexually abused. Sadly, the majority of us want to believe strangers and others who have contact with our children are the problem.
This is a critical issue as further evidenced by a Sports Illustrated article, September 3, 1999, issue, "Who is Coaching Your Kids?" regarding coaches sexually abusing boys on the team they coach. Thursday, October 21, 1999, Dateline rebroadcast a segment on coaches sexually abusing children. Friday, November 5, 1999, 20/20 broadcast a sexual abuse case from a small town involving a scout leader, who sexually abused several boys for more than a year. May 5, 2000, Montel Williams show provided a psychologist to counsel guests who were sexual abuse survivors.
A recently published book, "Protecting The Gift" by Gavin De Becker, is an excellent work on teaching children to protect themselves from acquaintance and stranger abuse. However, the author falls short of teaching children the critical skills to protect themselves from the most frequent sexual abuse perpetrators—family members. "If I'd Only Known...Sexual Abuse In or Out of the Family: A Guide to Prevention," addresses this critical issue.
Although the Sports Illustrated article, Dateline, the 20/20 TV programs and the book, Protecting The Gift are valuable works, they leave the impression that the majority of children are being abused by perpetrators outside the family. This is not only incorrect; it is tragic, because while we are all focusing on those outside the family, the majority of perpetrators, who are abusing children within the family, silently continue to abuse them. We, as individuals and as a society, must deal with the cost of lost or damaged lives.
The prevention strategies proposed in "If I'd Only Known...," never become outdated in their usage or effectiveness. Sexual abuse and incest of children has been a world crises since the beginning of time and there are no indications in any society it will become non-existent. However, I believe we can reduce the number of sexual abuse incidents and minimize the damage by using the prevention techniques I have researched and validated to be effective. Every parent or anyone who has child care responsibility could benefit by using these parent approved-child tested prevention strategies.
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, recognized pioneer in sexual child abuse prevention and recovery, author, "If I'd Only Known...Sexual Abuse in or Out of the Family: A Guide to Prevention," is noted for her pioneering work in verbal, physical and sexual abuse prevention and recovery

Conquering Commitment Phobia

The process of creating a life partner relationship typically progresses through various stages. At one important point, a couple will decide to become "exclusive," agreeing not to date anyone else. While being exclusive has its benefits, it is really only one stop on the road to a life partnership. That's because creating a life partner relationship requires taking the ultimate step of making a commitment.
This is the point in relationships when I frequently hear a lot of complaints, such as "She's worried about being only with me," or "He's got 'commitment phobia'." The term "commitment phobia" is a rather new addition to the English language. The original use of the term "phobia" comes from classical psychoanalysis, and is defined as "an obsessive, persistent, unrealistic intense fear of an object or situation." Common phobias are acrophobia, the fear of heights; claustrophobia, the fear of closed spaces; and agoraphobia, fear of open spaces. These unrealistic fears are thought to stem from "the displacement of an internal (unconscious) conflict to an external object symbolically related to the conflict." (A Psychiatric Glossary, Fourth Revised Edition, American Psychiatric Association.)
However, modern behavioral psychologists say phobias result from painful and/or traumatic events. For example, being stuck in a crowded elevator or subway train for a long period of time can cause phobic (fearful) reactions to, and avoidance of, elevators and subways, i.e., claustrophobia, in the future.
Defining the term "commitment" is a bit easier. It is a promise, a pledge or a vow. Making a commitment or a promise is essential when pursuing a goal. For example, an athlete wanting to win a gold medal in the Olympics must make a commitment to do everything it takes to win. As it pertains to the goal of creating a life partner relationship however, the commitment requires being loyal, trustworthy and faithful to another person.
Putting the two words together, the term "commitment phobia" becomes "an unrealistic fear of making a promise, a pledge or a vow to be a faithful and loyal partner to another person."
It would be understandable if a person has relationship fears because of some direct, painful experiences. A common precipitator is the experience of relationship failure, either that of one's own or of a close loved one. Here's an example --
Janet's parents divorced when she was 8 years old. While she lived with her mother and older sister, Jan had regular visits with her father in his new home. Her mother remarried a man whom Jan felt was vulgar and rude, and her father remarried a woman who Jan felt took advantage of her father's good nature. As a teenager and adult, Jan had relationship failures of her own, and eventually realized that she had no role-models for a healthy, working marriage. She entered psychotherapy and worked on clarifying what she wanted and needed in a relationship. She hung out with couples she respected, and got closer to attaining the kind of relationship she wanted by the time she met Mark on an online dating website.
Jan and Mark hit it off quite well, sharing many interests and life goals. They agreed to become exclusive after a couple of months, and within 7 months they were talking about marriage. This was when Jan found herself obsessing and worrying about her future, crying, losing sleep and sweating nervously whenever the topic of marriage came up. She knew she loved Mark and wanted to marry him, but her fears were so strong that she refused to discuss it with him anymore.
Psychotherapy helped Jan to see that she was not her mother or her father, that she had the skills and abilities to be in a loyal partnership, and that Mark was nothing like her father (a pushover) or her stepfather (crude and overbearing). Once Jan got a handle on the realities, she was able to move forward with wedding plans and married Mark one year to the date they met.
Janet's experience of her parent's divorce, coupled with her own relationship failures, set the stage for her fearful reactions to committing to Mark. With U.S. divorce rates hovering around 50%, witnessing dysfunctional relationships is quite commonplace, so it's not difficult to understand why many singles might experience commitment phobia.
Unfortunately, I see another manifestation of commitment phobia today with singles who suffer from perfectionism. They fear having to compromise their vision of an ideal mate, and believing that there will always be someone better around the corner, they reject date after date after date. Rejecting suitable partners then becomes a habit they become experts at, and their "pickiness" masks their true "commitment phobia."
Sam is a successful stock broker in his early forties. He says he has been dating for the purpose of marriage since his mid-twenties, and has dated almost 200 women. He says that he is capable of commitment, pointing to the exclusive relationships he has had, some of them lasting for over a year. Sam almost got engaged twice, but the first woman wasn't as educated as he, and the second woman's mother was overweight. He claims that the reason he's not married is because he "hasn't found the right woman yet."
Expecting perfection is an unrealistic and unattainable goal, yet fears of making a mistake can be paralyzing. Sam needs to learn how to focus more on the quality of the connections he's making with his dates, rather than continue to judge them based on the specifics. If he's unable to change his approach, then his inability to make a commitment is beyond coaching, and would require the deeper introspection that psychotherapy offers.
For most singles, however, conquering the fear of commitment, or "commitment phobia," involves managing the risks inherent in attempting any new endeavor. For many, this "risk-management" can be accomplished by making sure that you are truly ready, willing and able to be in an exclusive, committed relationship.
But for the true "commitment phobes," more help might be needed to overcome the paralyzing fears preventing them from attaining their ultimate goal of a loving and committed life partner relationship. But it can be worth it.
© Copyright 2006 Janice D. Bennett, Ph.D.
About Janice D. Bennett, Ph.D. Practicing as a psychologist for over 20 years, Janice has treated many singles looking to get married, but who had become depressed and demoralized by the dating process. She now uses her skills and experience to help healthy singles overcome the obstacles preventing them from attaining the relationships and lives they really want. Janice has been quoted in Us Weekly and Cosmopolitan magazines, writes the "Love Coach" advice column on http://www.jmatch.com/, has a free e-newsletter and gives teleclasses, lectures and workshops. Check out her "Get Your Love Right!" blog, read other dating-related Q's&A's and articles, and sign up for a complimentary 40 minute telephone coaching session by visiting her website at http://www.doctorlovecoach.com/

Symptoms of Phobia

Once the fear has been triggered the physical reaction can lead to a cycle of distress. The body responds to any naturally stressful situation by tensing up. This helps the person perform better. However if the reaction is misinterpreted and excessive this can lead to unnecessarily high levels of tension.
Although a sufferer may realise that the muscular pain and breathing difficulties they are experiencing are merely a response to stress; if the bodily reaction is extreme enough it may give rise to a fear of the symptoms of phobia: a fear of the fear. Anticipation of this discomfort, the fear of chest pain or hyperventilation can produce the stress that triggers these symptoms.
Some of the physical symptoms of phobia include:
shaking/tremblingsweating excessivelynauseadizzinesshyperventilationchest painfreezing
As fear levels increase, the mental processes intensify and distort. A phobic person will overestimate the danger they are in and underestimate their ability to cope. For example someone with a fear of driving will overestimate the dangers of road travel while underestimating their own driving ability. In this way they may lose all sense of perspective. They expect disaster to be the only outcome. This is called catastrophising.
Some of the common mental processes associated with phobia include:
catastrophisingignoring the positiveexaggeratingover generalizinglooking for disasterthinking in all or nothing terms.
As for psychological treatment, among the most effective are CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) and CGBT (Cognitive Group Behavioural Therapy). In supportive environments, social phobics can learn to address their fears and can steadily overcome them.
With the help of a therapist, they can develop strategies for coping and find a more constructive way of viewing their fears. The advantage of group therapy is that they can meet and interact with fellow sufferers, which will help them to realise that they are not facing their problems alone.
Steve Hill discusses symptoms of phobia and anxiety. Learn how to live without fear or anxiety. Read more informative fear, anxiety and phobia articles and information at:
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Sexual Abuse Recovery-Freeing The Hostages

As survivors of rape or child molestation, it's normal to suffer for several months to a few years, depending on the severity and duration of the abuse. This suffering can include flashbacks, nightmares, impotence, overactive sex drive, depression, anxiety and much more. Add to this suffering, the fact that, as an adult, you're expected to engage in normal sexual activity which is almost certain to bring back frightening and sickening memories. Unfortunately, due largely to the popular notion that people can't recover from such sexual trauma, many sexual abuse survivors suffer years and even decades beyond what is necessary for healing. This article is for survivors who were abused in the past and are ready, not to face their suffering and deal with it, but to put it in the past, so they can live a happy, normal life.
Three Popular Sexual Abuse Myths: The most popular myth is the one that says people don't recover from sexual abuse. It isn't true! Millions...easily the majority of sexual abuse survivors recover to live a normal, healthy, satisfying life...even a normal and satisfying sex life. I'm one of them! So are most of the abused people I've counseled over the years...both men and women. One woman I counseled was still suffering at age 60 for a single molestation that happened in her early teens. It isn't necessary! I have a scar on the bottom of my foot from when I dropped a glass jar at the age of five. I jumped up to avoid the broken glass and landed on a large piece, driving it deep into my foot. I remember the incident vividly, as anyone would, although it was 47 years ago. Just because I have a scar and emotional memories of the trauma, doesn't mean I haven't healed. It's possible to heal from sexual abuse, too, but if you believe you can't...you won't.
The second popular sexual abuse myth is the one that goes, "You have to pull the scab off, re-experience the pain and drain the emotional wound, in order for it to heal without festering." This may be true for the first year or two after a severe trauma but, years later, it isn't any more healthy to revisit that pain than it would have been for my Mom to keep pulling the scab off of my healing foot. It prolongs the pain and opens us up to complications, like infection. The only case where reopening an emotional wound makes sense is when the trauma wasn't faced and dealt with at the time, so it's reappearing as a new dysfunction (like when an adolescent who was abused as an infant begins acting out). Even in these cases, you face and deal with the problems and emotions and get them behind you. If I think about it hard enough, I can still see my mother's bruises and bloody face...still see my father beating her...still hear the screams and feel the fear and hurt from over 40 years ago. How does reliving all that heal me from those emotional wounds? Sure, I had bad dreams for a few years and get a flashback every now and then...like now, but those emotions are well in the past and I'm going to keep them there. I will not trade in my scar tissue for open wounds. We'll get to how you move on in a moment.
The third popular myth says, "if you confront your abuser, you'll get closure and be able to move on." I only know of 2 families where the abuser has voluntarily sought forgiveness and received it. In every situation I've heard about or counseled, confronting the abuser has resulted in more pain and suffering for the survivor, more strife in an already dysfunctional family, denial and/or more threats and abuse by the abuser. Except in extremely rare cases or relatively minor abuses, the only interaction between the abuser and survivor should come in a courthouse, to keep the abuser from hurting anyone else.
Facing And Dealing With Abuse: Now that we've discussed the myths, facing the fact that you were abused and learning how to deal with it are much simpler. Now you know you can heal, you don't have to constantly replay the pain and you don't have to experience the trauma of confronting your abuser in order to heal. There are 3 things that you need to drill into your mind so you're ready to move on: It happened! It's not my fault! I will recover! That's really all there is to facing and dealing with the fact you were abused. Just because it's simple, doesn't make it easy. It could take a few weeks to a year or more of constant effort drilling it into your head before your emotions start lining up with these three facts. In very severe cases, professional counseling and anti-depressants are needed for you to begin accepting these as facts. Once you've gotten to the point where you accept that it happened, it isn't your fault and you will recover, you're ready to move on.
Putting Victimhood Behind You:"Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it." Helen Keller
We don't have enough room in this article do discuss why our minds work this way, so, please accept these two facts: 1. The more we repeat something in our minds, the stronger the memory (like memorizing). 2. The stronger the emotion attached to a memory, the stronger the memory (that's why they use sex to advertise products). Unfortunately, this works against us when it comes to sexual abuse. The emotions are so strong, the memories keep bombarding us and making us relive the trauma whether we're awake or asleep. Since our minds can't distinguish between a real event and an imagined one, we relive the trauma every time we remember it. Because the trauma was sexual abuse, attempts at normal sexual behavior often trigger memories of the abuse, making it difficult, at best, to enjoy sexual activity. This is why some sexual abuse victims have to be sexually abstinent for 1-2 years until they get control of their thoughts. A loving spouse will understand, once they know that insisting on sex causes you to feel raped all over again. It's this mental cycle that locks many abuse survivors into almost permanent victimhood, holding themselves and their loved ones hostage to traumatic events that happened years before.
The good news is, you have the key to free yourself and your loved ones. You don't have to be hostages to the sick acts of creeps from the past. The key is to take control of your thoughts. Every time the bad thoughts come in, chase them out with good thoughts about loving and peaceful and beautiful things. Don't allow one thought to remain unanswered. Don't ever allow yourself to dwell on those evil images and painful emotions. Collect favorite memories of places or people. Watch and read only stories with good endings. Make a photo album of positive images to combat the negative ones. This is going to be one of the hardest and longest battles you've ever fought...but you can win! You'll have some relief from the flashbacks and emotions within about a month if you stick with it. Depending on how severe your abuse was, in a year or two, by persisting in managing your thoughts, your life will be almost back to normal, with occasional memories carrying very weak emotional tags. One day, you'll have a memory and wonder, "Where did that come from? I don't remember the last time I thought about that."
Now, you have a way, not just to face your abuse and deal with it, but to leave it behind you and move on to a new life. I want to warn you, If you're receiving treatment from a licensed professional, consult them before making any changes. I'm just someone with no formal training on the subject, who's been through trauma and helped others for around 20 years. From my experience, though, I want you to know, you now have the key to unlock your suffering and free your loved ones from being sexual abuse hostages. Are you ready to move on?

Marriage - The Magic of Touch

One of the fastest ways to improve your marriage is to put your love into action. One excellent way to put your love into action is through touch. And no guys, I do not mean groping your wife. Non-sexual loving touch helps to bond you together. Consistently nurturing that bond creates intimacy in your relationship.
It is the small everyday gestures of kindness and love that will fortify your relationship. As my partner, Dallas Munkholm, often puts it, “If you don’t do the little things, then the big things are just so much fluff.” That grand gesture will seem very hollow if are not doing the everyday things that say, “I care about you.”
We have had many clients who say, “I just don’t feel like I love him (or her) anymore.” This unfortunately is a common theme in couples seeking marriage counseling. Contrary to what many believe love is not a feeling it is something that you do. Loving feelings follow loving actions.
You may not feel very loving toward your partner right now, but if you begin to consistently give small gifts of love, if you touch with love and kindness, you will find those loving feelings returning. These loving touches and gifts of love are to be given freely, with no strings attached. There is no room for keeping score or expecting anything in return.
You have heard the saying, “Reach out and touch someone today.” Well reach out and touch your partner today and everyday. Enjoy the warmth and closeness that comes from connecting with one another.
We had clients, we will call Jen and Matt. Jen refused to even sit next to Matt while they were watching TV. Her reason was that every time he touched her he wanted sex. She wanted to be able to be close, touch and be held; but she withdrew because she felt that if she was willing to be touched the demand for sex would be there.
Matt found that when he was willing to touch Jen in non-sexual ways—to cuddle and be close without expecting that sex would follow—that he actually enjoyed the closeness. He also found that Jen became a much more willing lover when she felt loved and connected to him in other ways.
There are enumerable ways to lovingly touch your partner. Here are some examples. Try them out. Be creative and make up your own.
1. Hold hands while you are walking. 2. Put your hand on your partner's leg while you are driving 3. Sit close enough to touch arms or legs. 4. Caress your partner’s hand and arm. 5. Give your partner a foot massage. 6. Or a hand, shoulder or neck massage. 7. Kiss your partner before you leave the house.8. Kiss your partner when you return.9. Play footsie at the restaurant or elsewhere.10. Dance in the kitchen.11. Straighten his tie.12. Tuck in a stray tag.13. Touch your partner’s hair14. Brush against each other as you pass.15. Hug often.16. “Spoon” or touch while sleeping.17. Brush your partner’s cheek.18. Run your fingers across their back.19. Kiss your partner’s hand or the back of their neck.20. Sit on your partner’s lap or have them sit on yours.
It only takes a moment to lovingly connect with your partner, but the positive energy created by that connection lasts much longer. Accumulating enough of this positive energy will elevate your relationship to a new high.
Susan DerryProfessional Counselor & Life CoachCo-author of Marriage Prep: Beginnings a downloadable marriage preparation course Co-author of Intimate Sex: Manual for Lovemaking

Parental Kidnapping

Have you ever heard day to day kidnapping news revolving around events like a mother kidnapping her own son from her businessman husband who abused their child? Or maybe you have heard cases like this: about a stepfather who kidnaps his step daughter then takes her out of the country to force his wife to pay him a fortune in order to get her back?

These types of cases of kidnapping are known as Parental Kidnapping, to be precise. While some people do it to free their children from abusive and tyrant spouses others do it deliberately for financial gain. Other reasons for parental kidnapping include neglecting the spouses needs, abuse of the children by the spouse, endangerment of the child and injustice.

Some parents feel that they have been ill-treated during the legal battle for the custody of their child. As a result they kidnap the child to satisfy their ego or they cannot do without their children.

A survey by the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) has revealed that over 300,000 children are abducted every year. This huge number reflects how laws are needed, and they must be made very stringent in order to convict the offenders and instill fear in people who are planning similar acts.

In addition, one of the worst parts of kidnapping attempts is the effect on the children due to all this. It can cause serious harm for future development including emotional development, bad behavior in school, malnutrition and violent tendencies.

Help and Resources

There is hope and help. Via the Internet, you can access the NCMEC site and speak to a Call Center Specialist if you have speakers and a microphone with your computer. You can also insert the NCMEC RSS feed into your feed reader to keep abreast of missing children. Stay in tune with Amber alerts, too, either via wireless or other channels. And you can also register to volunteer in your area should a child ever turn up missing; handling out posters, handling phone calls, etc.

Learn more and reach out by writing to: National Center for Missing & Exploited Children, Charles B. Wang International Children's Building, 699 Prince Street, Alexandria, Virginia 22314-3175 USA. Call them at: (703) 274-3900; or fax: (703) 274-2200; or visit them online at: http://www.missingkids.com . Report any information about kidnapping attempts and parental kidnapping to their 24-hour Hotline by dialing: (800) THE-LOST (1-800-843-5678).

Having a child abducted is the biggest fear a parent can face, and no parent wants to even imagine this situation presenting itself. To assist the authorities with locating a missing child, the use of a child identification kit can speed up the return of a loved one. The first 48 hours are the most critical when it comes to locating and saving a missing child. A preferred Child Identification Kit usually contains the following vital information for your child, recent photos, fingerprints, dental records, hair samples and other pertinent information about your child in one secure and convenient location. This could save the life of a child!

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Hair Loss - Causes And Treatments

Hair loss is the main concern of many youngsters these days and many of them seek many measures to arrest it. While the length, thickness of the hair is attributed to inheritance, hair loss has its own causes and may differ in its profundity.
Hair loss can be caused by any one of these factors:
· Poor maintenance of hair and scalp· Dandruff· Climatic conditions· Health status· Nutrition· Stress
Now lets examine how each of these contribute to hair loss:
· Poor maintenance of hair and scalp:
Now this deals with the importance that each person gives to personal hygiene and grooming. Hair and scalp if not properly washed and groomed, can lead to hair loss. The scalp must be cleaned in regular intervals using a mild shampoo. Certain tips must be followed while maintaining those tresses.
The golden rules are:- Never wring hair after a wash.- Never comb wet hair.- Wiping the hair dry gently with a soft towel.- Using the dryer judiciously (excessive usage may lead to increased hair loss combined with change in texture)- To remove tangles, the hair must be combed from the bottom to the top.- The scalp must be ideally lubricated, using hair oil (coconut). This makes combing easier (therefore hair loss is reduced).- Using a scarf beneath a helmet will also absorb sweat and prevent damage to hair.- Excessive usage of chemicals such as dyes, colours, sprays, gels, will lead to increased hair loss.
· Dandruff:
This may be due to several reasons and presence of dandruff leads to hair loss. Using anti dandruff shampoos and proper maintenance can control dandruff. However if the problem persists, it is advisable that a dermatologist may be consulted for treatment.
· Climatic changes:
Change in climate may have different effects on hair. Hair loss increases during winter, where hair tips tends to split up. The hair also becomes dry, which turns the hair brittle. Oiling the hair can control this. However, during summer, sweat attracts a lot of dirt, and people who are often exposed to dust pollution, are prone to increased hair loss. Hair needs to be washed more frequently in these cases.
· Health Status:
It is always said that the health of a person is reflected by the health of his hair. Hair loss increases during illnesses such as Typhoid, Cancer, AIDS. Women experience increased hair loss during child labour. When treatments are taken for certain health conditions such as Cancer (Chemotherapy), hair loss is profound and is caused due to the drugs that are consumed.
· Nutrition:
Hair is made up of a protein called Keratin and the growth of hair requires the supply of nutrients and a balanced diet. The diet must ideally consist of lots of proteins and vitamins, which provides the health to the hair. Water must be had aplenty. Popular Grandmother remedies include the use of dates and curry leaves in one’s diet, which supplies the necessary iron.
· Stress:
Stress is one of the main culprits of hair loss. Mental tension increases heat in the body, which leads to increased hair loss. One must actually stop fretting about their hair loss, as it will by itself amount to the stress. Relaxing oneself, taking massages, practicing Yoga and meditation will de-stress the body and prevent further damage.
· Miscellaneous:
Prejudice of Nature has subjected men to increased hair loss compared to women. This is why men can be seen with receding hairlines as they age. Baldness is hereditary and cannot be prevented. However, it can be postponed with proper care. However technological developments have thrown up the options of hair transplant and other such treatments. People should not jump at these luring choices and must decide wisely before acting.

Sunburn: Skin Cancer and Aging of the Skin

The experience of sunburn can be a very efficient (i.e. painful) reminder to heed adequate protection on future occasions. However more importantly, it should be a reminder of the long-term effects of sun exposure on our bodies and health – which can include aging of the skin and skin cancer.
In order to more fully understand these consequences, let’s take a look at exactly what sunburn is, its symptoms and its effect on the body.
Sunburn results when the amount of exposure to the sun, or other ultraviolet light source (e.g. tanning lamps and welding arcs etc.), exceeds the ability of the body's protective pigment, melanin, to protect the skin. Melanin content varies greatly, but in general darker skinned people have more melanin than lighter skinned. (Although fairer skinned people are generally more prone to getting sunburn than darker skinned people, this certainly does not exclude the latter from risk.)
Sunburn destroys cells in the outer layer of the skin, damaging tiny blood vessels underneath. Burns deeper into the skin’s layers also damage elastic fibers in the skin, which over time and with repeated sun overexposure, can result in the appearance of yellowish, wrinkled skin.
The damage to skin cells from UV exposure (either sunlight or tanning lamps etc.) can also include damage to their DNA. It’s this repeated DNA damage, which can lead to a cell becoming cancerous. With the incidence of skin cancer rising dangerously in many parts of the world, and with its ability to develop and establish itself in the body ‘long’ before external signs are detected, -- paying attention to this aspect of sun exposure and sunburn should certainly not be ignored if we are serious about preserving our health.
Now while it may be easier to ignore the effects of sunburn occurring at a cellular level, ignoring the external symptoms of sunburn in the days immediately following such exposure is entirely another matter.
While sunburn is usually not immediately obvious, skin discoloration (ranging from slightly pink to severely red or even purplish) will initially appear from 1 – 24 hours after exposure. Although pain is usually worst 6 – 48 hours afterward, the burn can continue to develop for 24 – 72 hours after the incident. Where there is skin peeling, this generally occurs 3 – 8 days after the burn occurs.
While minor sunburns typically cause nothing more than warm/hot skin, slight redness, and tenderness to the affected area, -- in more serious cases, extreme redness, swelling and blistering can occur. These blisters filled with fluid may itch and eventually break. This can then cause peeling of the skin, exposing an even tenderer layer of skin underneath.
Severe sunburn can cause very red, blistered skin but can also be accompanied by fever, chills, nausea (in some cases vomiting), and dehydration. In instances of extreme sunburn where the pain is debilitating, medical treatment may be required.
While the immediate effects of sunburn can certainly be painful and cause discomfort, the real deterrent to UV overexposure should be the potential damage to your long-term health – including the risk of premature aging of the skin along with skin cancer.
Don’t let sunburn and sun overexposure kill your chances of enjoying youthful skin, and a healthy body. Remember, the easiest way to treat sunburn will always be to avoid it in the first place!
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Why Terrorism is on Rise?

It is quite difficult to give the accurate answer of this question. Some terrorists are fighting for their religion, some are for their independent country, some are against the social injustice and some are here for money. The one of the major reason which comes out is religious intolerance. There are some religions in the world which are feeling insecure in present times. To put forward their voice they are using the way of terrorism. They are seeing the world as threat on their religion.
The main reason behind their taking the extreme step of terrorism may be that they are finding themselves behind the world. They are seeing the advancements in the world as potential threat against their religion. They are fearful that there followers may discard them and chose the other path. Therefore they are treating it as direct attack on their religion. Second reason behind the terrorism is fight for independent countries. These fights are also to some extent are linked with religious sovereignty and rather the independent states.
People did not want to live with the people of other religion because of the earlier bitter experiences. They thought that by living in their own religion they will be safer. The fight for Kashmir and Philistine are of this kind. Third one is fight against social injustice. There are many countries in the world where still social system is in bad shape. These situation leads to unrest in people and they chose the way of violence. Fourth is a new category which has emerged of people who can do anything for money. There only religion is money and they can even kill some one for this.
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I Have a Queen Dream

have a dream that all women would live as Queen in their lives.
I have a Queen dream...that as women live as Queen in their lives, they would flow as the divine, feminine, creatures they are.
I have a Queen dream...that being Queen, every woman would know who her Lord and Savior is and that she would dance in the safety and protection and provision of her God.
I have a Queen dream...that, as Queens, women would empower themselves as the rightful gatekeepers of their relationships, guarding like a hawk the special sacredness of their romantic partnerships.
I have a Queen dream...that Queen-women around the world would be connected with their Kings and that these royal unions would be strong, uplifting, life-enhancing, life-producing and filled with great passion and deep love.
I have Queen dream...that, as Queens, women would feel and experience an alive connection with God, being Spirit-led in all their matters.
I have a Queen dream...that, as Queens, every woman would see greatness in her King and summon forth his best, his brilliance, his uniqueness, his creativity, his leadership, and his empowered masculinity for his own strengthened sense of self-worth and for the benefit he will bring to the planet.
I have a Queen dream... that women would no longer fear a financial lack and that, as Queens, they would develop a healthy wealth consciousness and learn the skills of money making. Further, they would use these funds wisely as they contribute to the well-being of their families and to the world community to develop ways for men and women and children to thrive in life.
I have a Queen dream...that when women are Queens, the prison of emotional eating and weight bondage would be eliminated by lovely ladies returning to their natural states of being highly connected to their bodies and effortlessly have a beautiful relationship with food, so that it nourishes, energizes, and strengthens a feminine figure.
I have a Queen dream...that, as Queens, women would courageously throw off the chains of sexual repression as they love, emanate and delight in their sexuality. That they would unleash it for the creative, spiritual, healing, life-giving and affirming purpose for which it is intended.
I have a Queen dream...that, as Queens, women would cultivate their sensuality by playing with paints and potions and planting flowers. That, as they garden, they would enjoy feeling the cold earth beneath their feet and dirt under their nails.
I have a Queen dream...that, as Queens, women would co-create the male/female relationship to be edifying to both man and woman and that the global community would evolve in its understanding, appreciation, and glorifying of both genders.
I have a Queen dream...that as princesses individuate and work out and discover who they are, and learn how to grow into Queenhood, that they wouldn't be judged, condemned or cursed as rebellious. But, that Queens would gather together and hold the right-of-passage space for each young woman to safely and consciously evolve into the Queen she too is meant to become.
I have a Queen dream...that, as Queens, women would not be jealous of seeing other women succeed professionally. But, that they would truly rush to support the birthing process of creativity and career the way they spend time, energy and money celebrating baby showers.
I have a Queen dream...that, as Queens, when women bring babies into the world that they would feel protected and provided for. Further, that their lives would be organized in such a way to have plenty of carefree time to enjoy watching their children grow.
I have a Queen dream...that, as Queens, their creations of the kitchen would bring women domestic bliss and culinary confidence. I dream that they express themselves by blending the bounty of flavors from the outdoor market, into tastes that dazzle and delight the dining experience for all.
I have a Queen dream...that the wise, crafty and wildish ways of women would be revered and praised by all societies.
I have a Queen dream...that women's intuition would be taken more seriously and that women would take life less seriously.
I have a Queen dream...that, as Queens, women would live in physically, emotionally, spiritually and sexually safe environments.
I have a Queen dream...that when living life as Queens women around the world would wake up daily feeling refreshed, loved, cared for, provided for and would be excited to fulfill their Assignments that day.
I have a dream that every woman around the world would fully live as Queen of her life.
© 2007 Gina Ratliffe
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Domestic Violence - 7 Controlling Behaviors That Cause Emotional Pain

Are you living with a controlling partner who wants you to dump your family and friends? Learn the characteristics of an abuser and escape before you become a victim of Domestic Violence.
1. What you wear.
When you started dating, your partner complimented your clothing choices, but after you’ve dated a time or two he tells you that shirt makes you look fat. You look like a whore in those jeans. Or he just doesn’t like anything you wear.
2. Punishes disobedience.
Your partner finds ways to punish or threaten you if you don’t do exactly what he tells you to do. He gets angry and acts out when you don’t do what he wants, and is sweet and affectionate when you follow his ‘suggestions.’ (Are you his dog, getting a treat for behaving the way he demands?)
3. You’re crazy.
He tells you you’re crazy or need ‘help’ if you disagree with him. He makes you think it’s all you, when you feel a need to confront his bad behaviors. He’s perfect, you’re the one with issues and problems.
4. Empty promises.
He doesn’t keep his word, always makes it sound like you’re the one who failed. He’s late because you told him the wrong time, or you gave him the wrong directions. He didn’t get you a gift because you didn’t tell him what you wanted, becomes his excuse.
5. Double standard.
He doesn’t want you talking to your ex, but he calls his ex every weekend. You can’t go out with friends and family, but he leaves you home on the weekends waiting for him while he goes out with his family and friends. Or, he takes you with him and leaves you sitting in the corner wondering why you came.
6. Blames you.
It’s your fault he treats you bad, you didn’t make him want to treat you good. He missed a promotion because he was worried about you flirting with his co-worker. He feels like you don’t care about him, because you don’t do everything he tells you to do.
7. Uses you.
Expects you to support him, drive him everywhere, buy him games and toys instead of getting a job. He spends your money on video games and plays them all day instead of looking for a job like he promised, then tells you that he needed a ride to look for a job.
Are you tired of feeling like a joy stick? You don’t need a controller. Assert your independence and step out of the path of abuse.
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Don't Do What Everyone Else is Doing

Denim is a versatile fabric that has stood the test of time. Over the ages, the styles have evolved but little else has changed. It can be worn casually or semi-casually based on the accessories that go with it. Jeans was considered work clothes until the 1950s but then the new era of fashion jeans began when film and pop stars like Elvis Presley and Marlon Brando wore them. It became a hit with teenagers and thus began a long history of several film stars wearing them and also launching their own brands and styles which have their own fan following.
Designer denim jeans on the other hand are a new addition to the family of denim. The evolution of designer jeans began in Europe and once the wave of bell-bottoms subsided designer jeans flooded the market and became the craze. There are several names like Yanuk, Taverniti and others that come to mind.
The history of Yanuk denim is interesting. The owner is known as the denim godfather. Yanuk's slogan is "Don’t do what everyone else is doing".
Designer jeans and denim skirts focused on denim fabrics with some vintage wash techniques thrown in for effect otherwise known as distressed denim. This type of denim is also termed as pre-washed, stonewashed, acid washed, ravaged/aged, white washed and super bleached. The resulting fabric has a pre-work look. The trend now is to buy jeans that already look pre-worn. Yanuk is a leading supplier for distressed denim.
Designer jeans are made from high-quality fabrics milled in the United States, Japan, Italy and other places, and processed with cutting-edge treatments and finishes. The concepts, designs, embellishments, patent-pending pockets and great attention to detail and quality give it a competitive advantage in the high-end fashion jeans market.
Yanuk jeans came into popularity due to its friendly approach to shaping women's backside. Yes, you got it. Their mission is to make you love your butt. Their unique detailing makes it very flattering and has become popular with women of all ages. Once they got the women's line of jeans going, they launched the men's collection. They also launched a children's clothing line recently.
The most popular showcase of these varieties of designer jeans is the Fashion Week. The top designers show their collections and these shows are attended by high profile personalities like buyers for major stores, the media, fashion stylists, stars and other wealthy clientele. These shows usually take place twice a year and are held in the fashion capitals of Paris, Milan, London, New York and Tokyo. Designer jeans and accessories play a large part in these shows with several film stars buying and wearing these jeans and largely increasing the brands popularity among the consumers. Other brands owned this group are Antik Denim and Taverniti So. These brands are also immensely popular with all age groups especially the teens and each have its own fan base depending on which star endorses it.
Film stars have long endorsed jeans and wear them in public in casual settings, catwalks and also on the red carpet on many award winning nights. Jeans are here to stay for a long time to come due to their versatility. With the advent of the internet, it is possible to buy clothes off the web cheaply and often there are good bargains to be had. Yanuk, Taverniti and Antik jeans are sold in a variety of online womens clothing stores.
Kathy Austin is a marketing consultant for DenimSquare.com, an online womens clothing store. Visit the store to buy denim jeans and denim skirts to suit every pocket.

How to Live a Healthier and Longer Life

In my practice I have the opportunity to treat elderly people for a variety of symptoms ranging from headaches to neck- and backaches.
And it’s amazing how one elderly person can live so much better than another. After years of practice and asking questions of those elderly folks who are “living well,” I definitely see a pattern.
But before I can share their “secrets” to living a great life, we have to agree on certain meanings of words or vocabulary.
When I was growing up (I was born in 1964), if you were fifty you were old. In today’s society if you are fifty you could be starting a new career/job, going back to college, starting a business, raising your kids, raising your grandchildren, taking care of your parents, buying a second home, or all of the above. So when I use the word “elderly” in my context, I am referring to a population that is seventy years of age or older.
When I say an elderly individual is “living a good life,” I am referring to the fact that this individual is taking care of himself—from a health perspective, financial perspective and social perspective.
If you are below the age of seventy and think this article is about the elderly, you are wrong. This article is about how your actions today can lead you to an active, relatively pain-free life beyond the age of seventy.
So what is the “secret” to living a healthy, longer life? From a medical perspective, genetic predisposition obviously plays a role. But after having taken medical histories of many elderly people, I see a pattern or a common denominator of those who are living well.
And here it is…
¨They take three or fewer medications daily.¨They take at least a multivitamin.¨They exercise daily.¨They still work a minimum of 3-4 days per week.¨They eat small meals.¨They volunteer.¨They have active social lives.
MedicationsObviously, certain medications are important, especially if you suffer from diabetes, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, heart problems, etc. Some of these health problems, however, may also respond to changes in your eating habits. Therefore, if you are on these medications, you should speak to your doctor about consulting a nutritionist. Altering your nutrition lifestyle now may well result in reduced medications in the future.
If you are overweight, suffer with a heart condition or even diabetes; it is best to get your weight and sugars under control when you are young. Diabetes can take a toll on your body as you age.
VitaminsElderly people who are living well take at least a multivitamin. When questioned about their intake of certain vitamins, most stated that they take at least one multivitamin a day. Some take additional vitamins, depending on certain aches, pains, and genetic predisposition.
Daily ExerciseExercise, such as aquatic (pool) therapy, occurs on a daily basis for at least thirty minutes, with emphasis on stretching and flexibility. These range-of-motion maneuvers address the underlying issue of degenerative changes or arthritis in the spine.
EmploymentMost work 3-4 days a week in part-time jobs that require mental concentration. Some do it for the additional money, some do it for the health insurance, and some work because it provides a purpose and allows them to feel valued.
Small MealsSmall, frequent meal consumption throughout the day is an underlying pattern. This is a great habit to develop when you are in your thirties. Eating in this manner will aid in weight management and reduction. It also keeps your sugar levels in a proper range throughout the day.
VolunteeringVolunteer work is also an underlying pattern. There is a need to give back to the community, to their religious affiliation, etc. When questioned about why they volunteer, most answered me, “Why would you not volunteer? That’s what we are supposed to do in life. We are supposed to help each other.”
Social LifeThey have active social lives and are usually surrounded by friends and family. Their schedules are usually filled with working part time, traveling with family, meeting friends for breakfast and lunch, participating in book clubs, taking day trips, etc.
Although medical complications can arise that compromise daily living, one should still strive to meet the actions as detailed above. And the idea is to start these actions when you are young—before they become a necessity.
This article should end with some humor, for I feel humor is one of the most important ingredients to feeling younger. As I age I might have to give up sweets, decline an extra piece of bread, avoid pasta, etc., but I will not give up my sense of humor and neither should you, my friend.
I end with the following quote to bring a smile to your face.
“You know you’re getting old when all the names in your black book have M.D. after them.” ~Arnold Palmer
Here’s to your Health, Wealth & Happiness!
Michael J. Kaye is a chiropractic physician practicing in Bucks County, Pennsylvania. He is a member of the American Chiropractic Association, Pennsylvania Chiropractic Association and the American Chiropractic Rehabilitation Board. He has a sub-specialty in Chiropractic Rehabilitation.
He is the director of The Rehab Group of Bucks/Montgomery County-a multidisciplinary clinic with an emphasis on chronic pain and wellness. He is a publisher of two papers on rehabilitation of chronic injuries. In general his clinic promotes nutritional and lifestyle changes for the chronic pain patient. Additionally, he has published several articles on finance and wealth, happiness and motivation; and health related issues.
Dr. Kaye also developed a web site dedicated to Health, Wealth & Happiness. He authored an e-book titled, “The Living Triad”-a book about building a foundation for a well-lived life. Website- http://www.frompaintopersonalgain.com/

Who pratice the true religion

Islamic apologists keep telling us that the religion of Islam is a kind, tolerante and peaceful religion. Every time a woman is stoned or someone is beheaded or a homicide bomber blows up a bus or restaurant filled with innocent people, we are told that it is the work of Islamic fanatics and that true followers of Islam do not agree with these things.
Now we find out that in Afganistan, a country that is 99% Muslim, a man is being tried under Sharia (Islamic law) for apostasy, and if convicted, will face the death penalty.
What did this man do that was so horrible, so against the Islamic faith? He converted to Christianity, that's the terrible thing that he did. This is apparently one of the worst things a Muslim can do. He chose to give up the Islamic faith and therefore is so evil that he deserves to be put to death. He can be spared, however, if he agrees to become a Muslim again.
The Hadith (which is said to be the body of quotes attributed to Muhammad), Sahih Bukhari Vol. 9, book 84, number 57, has been interpreted as saying "Kill whoever changes his religion", so the Sharia court judge is proposing to do just that.
The Torah in Deuteronomy 13:6-10 has been interpreted as saying about apostastics "But thou shalt surely kill him; thine hand shall be first upon him to put him to death, and afterwards the hand of all the people. And thou shalt stone him with stones, that he die; because he hath sought to thrust thee away from the LORD thy God, which brought thee out of the land of Egypt, from the house of bondage." yet I don't believe that any Israeli judge would ever even consider attempting to hand down any type of criminal sentence for apostasy.
If the Islamic religion is so kind, tolerant and peaceful, why are it's laws interpreted in such a barbaric and intolerant way by so many followers. I realize that not all Muslim countries follow Sharia law and that of those that do, not all are so fanatical. However, many Muslim countries do still practice amputation of one/both hand(s) for theft, stoning for adultery, and execution for apostasy. Other countries, including Iraq, that did not, in the past, follow Sharia law are now talking about setting up Sharia courts.
I also realize that not all Muslims interpret Islamic law the same way. Islamic law like any other body of laws is subject to interpretation and therefore can be interpreted liberally, moderately or fundamentally. The problem is that while some Muslims interpret Islamic law liberally or moderately, it seems that a large majority of the Muslims in the Arabic world interpret the law fundamentally (at least as it pertains to women and non believers).
Afganistan's constitution guarentees freedom of religion, however, in an interview, Afganistan's Foreign Minister stated that the government had "nothing to do" with the court case. He further stated that he hoped there would be a "satisfactory result" to the case. To me, this seems that he was saying that the Sharia court is not bound by Afgani law and can do as it pleases, thereby making the Afgani constitution worthless. It further leads to the belief that Afganistan is a democracy on paper only and is actually ruled by Islamic fundamentalists. These fundamentalists may not be as bad as the Taliban but, so far, they do not seem to be much better.
There are many religious groups that believe that apostasy is wrong and that their religion is the only true religion. However, I know of no country, in this day and age, other than certain Muslim countries, that would sentence a person to death for changing his or her religious beliefs. Such things did happen in the past, look at the Spanish inquisition, but are now considered repugnant. [http://dharticles.resourcesforattorneys.com ]David G. Hallstrom, Sr. is a retired private investigator and currently publishes several internet directories including http://www.resourcesforattorneys.com/ a legal and lifestyle resources directory for attorneys, lawyers and the internet public. For more lifestyle information see lifestyle.resourcesforattorneys.com, the Lifestyle directory from Resources For Attorneys.
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Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

Chronic Fatigue Syndrome or the Chronic Fatigue Dysfunction Syndrome is characterized by some symptoms that are often confused to be because of high blood pressure or influenza. The person often feels fatigued for long periods of time, with muscle cramps, nausea and other symptoms that are not cured by long rests. Even the fatigue suffered by individuals suffering from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome is debilitating and prolonged leading to gradual decrease in the person’s ability to perform even daily activities due to tiredness.
Although not completely confirmed, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome is known to have been caused due to an individual’s faulty or affected immune system that might be a result of many causes such as prolonged illness from a severe disease, old age, environment, mental breakdown due to excess stress, nervous systems inflammation, or even as simple as due to viral or bacterial infection. Whatever be the cause, the patient tends to feel severe fatigue resulting in further infection of the already infected parts and more if not treated on time.
Since Chronic Fatigue Syndrome has specific symptoms, it is easier to detect the illness in someone if aware that such an illness exists. As mentioned, no direct action results in this disease. A variety of causes, alone or together might lead to this, sometimes gradually increasing in an individual. Sometimes Chronic Fatigue Syndrome might occur in a body following some other wound or infection or be caused due to even some minor surgery.
One piece of bad news about being affected by Chronic Fatigue Syndrome is that there is no permanent cure to this disease. Treatments might make the feeling of tiredness lessen to a great extent and the patient would be able to continue with the ordinary daily tasks. However, long term treatment is yet been discovered for complete cure for this dreadful disease that saps one of their strength leaving them as weak as new born babies.
Catching onto the disease at an early stage can be advantageous as the patient would still have some strength and would be able to respond in a better manner to the medication. Since, as mentioned, there is no complete cure to this disease, medication might have to be taken on a long term basis or keep the medicine on hand to keep the disease at bay at all times.
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What You Need to Know About Skin Cancer Prevention

Skin cancer prevention is preached by medical professionals all over the United States. This is no surprise given that the Cancer Research and Prevention Foundation reported more than one million Americans were diagnosed with some form of skin cancer in 2005. Despite the medical evidence available on skin cancer, our society remains focused on tanning beds and sunbathing without using the proper protection.
Skin cancer comes in two forms, melanomas and non-melanomas. Melanomas usually account for only four percent of diagnosed skin cancers, but they are considered to be the most deadly. Melanomas occur in the epidermis, the skin's outer layer, usually appearing as a dark mole with uneven edges.
If detected early through skin cancer prevention, melanomas can be eliminated without causing harm. If ignored, these cancers can break away and spread to other parts of the body. Non-melanomas, on the other hand, are comprised of two different cell types, basal cells and squamous cells. Both of these cells are caused from sun exposure, but basal cells form in the lower epidermis while squamous cells form in the upper epidermis.
Preventing skin cancer is often associated with older generations, but today you see more teenagers and young adults spending excessive amounts of time in the sun. Without the proper protection, our society could see a surge in skin cancer diagnosis. Tanning beds are another cause of skin cancer and are often used throughout the year, not just during the summer months.
Proper prevention begins with knowing what you need to be sun safe any time of the year. If you have light colored hair and fair skin, you should be weary of exposing yourself to over indulge in the sun's rays. You should also be aware if anyone in your family has been diagnosed with skin cancer because this could increase your chances of developing the disease.
Sunscreen is recommended as a form of protection against the sun. The American Cancer Society urges the use of waterproof sunscreen that has an SPF15 or more of both UVA and UVB protection. You should also apply at least an ounce of sunscreen for your body twenty minutes before going out into the sun.
Too often, individuals forget to re-apply their sunscreen after being exposed to harmful UVA and UVB rays. Also be sure to avoid the sun during 10 a.m. and 4 p.m. because this is when the sun's rays are most intense. Staying unprotected in the sun during this time is when you put yourself in the danger zone for damaging healthy skin cells.
Proper skin cancer prevention should be practiced by everyone in your family, even babies. Doctors recommend babies that are six months or younger stay out of the sun. Teaching your children to be sun smart is important for their health too.
Find shady areas when you take them outside to play and be sure they have the proper protection on. Clothing is another way to protect yourself and your family from harmful rays. Wear hats that have wide brims to cover all areas of your neck, ears, eyes and scalp.
Skin cancer prevention does not mean you have to avoid the sun altogether. It just means you should be smart when you do go outside. Remembering to use a protective sunscreen all year is a great way to start your cancer prevention routine.
Know your skin and any marks or freckles so you can recognize abnormalities that may develop. The sooner you start guarding yourself from harmful rays, the better you raise your chance of avoiding skin cancer.
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